It’s not what you think. It’s not because I sit around all
day staring at a computer. Or that I put in such long hours that I can’t find time
to exercise. It’s not even because I’m so stressed out from work that I have to
eat all night to cope. What is it then, you ask? It’s quite simple.
My co-workers keep bringing in food.
I often wonder what drives them to do this. Surely their jobs
aren't so onerous that the only way they can bear to come in at all is to have lots of
delectable edibles to distract them from their miserable lot. Surely they aren’t
so lacking in creativity that they can’t think of ways other than eating to mark
the birthdays, weddings, new babies, retirements, and myriad other joyous
celebrations of their colleagues; after all, we could make the birthday guy or
gal wear a funny hat all day and blow party horns at them every time they pass
by. That would be fun. And of course don’t forget the holiday spreads, the Christmas
cookies, the Valentine’s Day chocolates, the bagels and cream cheese for
National Bosses Day (a real holiday, I assure you!), not to mention the bumper
crops of zucchini bread at harvest time.
But you know what the real rub is. It’s not just the preoccupation
with food, rather the type of food. No one says, “Hey, make sure you have a
piece of Joe’s birthday salad!” No, my little one, to celebrate, the food must
be decadent, for everyone knows that vegetables make lousy party companions.
Instead, there must be a plethora of cakes, pies, cookies, banana nut breads,
muffins, donuts, and brownies, along with the obligatory bowl of melon and
grapes, the token nod to “healthy food.”
For the longest time after I reached my goal weight, I found
it hard to deal with the relentless onslaught of “goodies” that had such a bad
effect on me. I worried about whether my co-workers would be offended if I said
no, until I realized that was more about me and my fear of making fuss than
anything else. So, for a while, I tried just saying in the politest way, “No
thanks.” That worked for most people, but every now and then I’d encounter a
real pusher, someone who would say something like, “Oh for Gawd’s sake, one
little piece won’t hurt you!” I was a bit flummoxed about how to deal with
that, until my nutritionist suggested this gem. “Just tell them it gives you
gas. They’ll be too embarrassed to say anything else.” Gadzooks! Why didn’t I
think of that?!
What seems to work best for me is to approach the most
prolific of the office bakers ahead of time, tell them that I won’t be participating
in these types of events and that they shouldn’t take it personally because it’s
just something that I need to do for me. Recently I overheard someone saying, “Don’t
expect Sandy to have any of those cookies.” It seems I’ve become “that” person,
you know, the big, wet blanket for everything fun. Sigh.
Nobody said this was gonna be a piece of cake. Arghhhhh! Not
cake!
Are you sure you don't work in MY office!? ;-) Keep fighting the good fight. I'm right there along with you!
ReplyDeleteIt seems we all work in the same office...
DeleteI admire you for fighting the food onslaught. It was so difficult when I was working. I wore out after a while, and I admit to giving in way too often.
ReplyDeleteI always think this will all be easier after I retire.
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