Ha!
Here I am, fifty-five years old, still wondering if that day
will ever come. Not surprisingly, I thought the same thing about losing weight.
That belief led to a vision of me,
finally thin, eating with ease, enjoying a diet that was tasty, satisfying and
good for me. Food was no longer a source of guilt, failure or agony. As with my
dream of being a fully realized adult, I saw myself calm, relaxed, and possessed
of a rarified state of being where food was handled once and for all.
Well, that didn’t happen either. I’ve been successful in
maintaining a one-hundred pound weight loss for about four and a half years,
but it’s never become easy or effortless or “handled.” It’s important that you
know this because the diet industry promises us the exact opposite. We are told
that each new wonder diet, each breakthrough drug, each revolutionary program, guarantees
that on their plan, you will lose
weight and keep it off without difficulty or anguish. Success story after
success story are paraded before us, each newly slender and jubilant (transformed!),
vowing that they will never be fat
again.
Hate to be a party pooper folks, but if you think that maintaining
your weight loss will be effortless, then you are setting yourself up for a big
disappointment. And possibly a big weight regain. I know this from bitter personal
experience. I’ve lost large amounts of weight several times in my life and,
except for the last time, I’ve regained every last ounce and then some. In fact,
that was my pattern. Lose twenty pounds, gain thirty. Lose those thirty pounds,
gain fifty. I was a serial dieter for most of my life, losing and regaining too
many times to count, until at last I was one-hundred pounds overweight.
So what’s different this time? This time, I’ve abandoned the
dream. I’ve accepted that maintaining a large weight loss is no picnic and
never will be. I don’t always like what I have to do to keep my weight in this lower
range, but in desperate moments, I channel the wit and wisdom of my mother. When
I was a small girl, crying over some terrible heartache, how many times did she
say to me, “If you’re going to get upset about that, you’re going to have a
very hard life.” Indeed. It seems that the best way to deal with the hard stuff
is to accept that it’s hard. Be a bit of a stoic. And then move on.
I’m sure this is not what you want to hear. You want to hear
that there’s a magic bullet, a cure, an answer to obesity that doesn’t involve a
measure of pain. But there isn’t. All I can say is, if you’re going to be upset
by that... Well, I think you know the rest.
I think being open about the struggle, and having a support network whose members also know the pain, make a lot of things possible. You're doing great, Sandy.
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I certainly appreciate your support as my most faithful reader!
DeleteI very much appreciated your input! very interesting write up Medical Statements
ReplyDeleteIt's nice to meet you Lisa! I'm glad you enjoyed this and hope that what I share here will be helpful to you in some way.
DeleteAmen, sister. I wish I'd read this post 75 pounds ago. That said, I'm taking it with me on the long journey back down to the other end of the scale. Keep fighting the good fight, Sandy!
ReplyDeleteIt is a long journey but a worthwhile one. Keep the focus and you'll get there!
DeleteSandy, reading back through your posts--how did I miss these? Thanks for your honesty. i am going to link to this in my blog!!
ReplyDeleteI'm glad you found it!
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